The moments I’m reminded of this most are when my kids say or exclaim something with some enthusiasm. They say it, and I’m like “where did that come from?” And before I can even finish the question, my mind knows… THAT’S ME!! Currently my son, 5 ½, is walking around reacting to numerous things every day with the question “Are you kidding me?” in a very expressive fashion. And guess what I belt out when something puzzles me? That very same thing! I’ve noticed also, on occasion, when something isn’t working out just how it’s planned my son will exclaim “I don’t under-STAND!” Again, right out of old pop’s playbook. So that’s fun, isn’t it?
The funny thing is he almost goes out of his way to come up with situations like this. It happens in his play, not just as unconscious reactions to life scenarios. So, my habits, whether bad or good, become a means of intentional copying, not just reaction. So isn’t it daunting, humbling, and hopefully, motivating, that these little beings that look up to us so much and desire so deeply to copy us deserve a decent example and model to copycat? In large part, we’re modeling who they are becoming. We’ll make mistakes, so there will be plenty of opportunity to teach about that too, but let’s make sure we give some intentional effort to just not be blatantly rude, crude and socially unacceptable. This good practice in general, sure, but more importantly, while our kids are watching. And believe me; they’re watching more than we’ll ever know!