If I could tell fathers the best thing they can do for their children it wouldn't be about parenting. It would be about their relationship with their children's mom. Small children are followers and guess who they are following? They model their lives and actions off of what they see us doing. You might not think they notice how you respond, treat or act toward their mom but if you notice your children disrespecting their mother it might be because you are.
Do you show her signs of love and affection? Do you support her? Do you listen to what she says and not respond with an attitude or sharp reactions? Do you take her seriously? Do you support and encourage her? Do you do what she asks? Does she have your respect?
The best model of how children should treat their mothers comes from their fathers. I'd say my kids generally have a pretty positive example of this, but I can also honestly say I've failed at one point or another at all of the above questions. We all will. But we can think about these things consciously and strive to improve them all. The simple fact is that if we want our kid's behavior and actions toward their mothers to be right, the first place we look is at our own behavior and actions toward her.
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